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Sacraments: The Healing Power of Confession

The sacrament of confession is a wonderful place of victory and healing, but some may struggle with fears or misconceptions about this sacrament. Use this article to have a conversation about why repentance is important and to talk through any hesitations the person you are leading may have about this sacrament.

Sacraments:

The Healing Power of Confession
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Optional Lectio Divina Prayer 

  1. Read John 8:3-11. 
  2. Meditate on the words. 
  3. Speak to Christ about this passage. 
  4. Rest and listen in God’s presence. 
  5. Discuss together.

In fourth-century Milan, there lived a talented professor of rhetoric. 

While one of his parents continually tried to get him to convert to Christianity, he had decided to follow some of the pagan philosophies of his day. Thankfully, through a series of friendships, the teacher began to reconsider Christianity, and over time, he became convinced that it was true. 

There was just one problem: His attachment to sexual sin overwhelmed him and kept him from conversion. 

The professor tried to forget about his struggle until one day a simple Christian man named Ponticianus came to his house for business. Upon seeing the teacher’s copy of St. Paul’s epistles, Ponticianus told the story of how two of his friends—simple, ordinary men—converted to the Catholic Faith. While they were speaking, the teacher was reminded of his own struggles and became ashamed that he, who was much smarter, more successful and more famous, was unable to do what these simple men had nobly done: give up his sins and start living as a Christian. 

After saying goodbye to Ponticianus, the teacher went into his garden to weep. There he considered the choice that lay before him: He could remain on the fence with his faith, believing in his head but not following God in his heart in the way he lived each day. Or he could turn his life around and commit to following Christ. 

His mind began to race. On the one hand, his lust taunted him: He realized that if he chose Christ, he would have to give up sexual sin forever. On the other hand, the life of chastity also began to appeal to him: He recalled the many Christian men and women who were able to rise above their slavery to lust because God gave them the strength to do what they could not do on their own. 

During this interior battle, he heard voices of children playing and repeating the phrase, “take and read, take and read.” The children’s words inspired him to pick up his book of Paul’s epistles and read the first passage he found. He read: “Let us conduct ourselves becomingly as in the day, not in reveling and drunkenness, not in debauchery and licentiousness, not in quarreling and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” (Rom 13:13–14). 

A light of certainty flooded the teacher’s heart and all of his doubt faded away. He repented of his sins, was baptized and eventually became a priest and then a bishop. He became one of the greatest saints and theologians that the Church has ever known—St. Augustine of Hippo. His autobiography, Confessions, where his conversion story is found, is one of the most read books in history. 

Discuss: What is your initial reaction to the story of St. Augustine? Do you notice people having similar struggles today? 

God never tires of forgiving us; we are the ones who tire of seeking his mercy.
Pope Francis


REPENTANCE 

Repentance is a key habit in the Christian life. In Scripture, the word “repent” (metanoia) means to “turn around” or “turn back.” It involves a fundamental turning around in our life—turning away from sin and turning toward Christ. The Catholic Church explains it this way: “Interior repentance is a radical reorientation of our whole life, a return, a conversion to God with all our heart, an end to sin, a turning away from evil, with repugnance toward the evil actions we have committed” (CCC 1431). 

But repentance is not a one-time act. It’s an ongoing habit for a disciple of Jesus who wants to grow. The Bible challenges us, “rend your hearts” (Joel 2:13)—which means to tear open our hearts, to look inside and see what’s really there…and then have the courage to remove anything that does not belong in the heart of a Christian. Whether it’s big sins like the unchastity Augustine struggled with or the hundreds of petty sins that plague many Christians—little grudges we hold, a tendency to complain, envy, self-centeredness, lack of kindness, lack of trust, pride, discouragement, or wasting time—we all have plenty of sins in our hearts to repent of! 

But there are several things that can hold us back from true repentance. Let’s look at three: 

Rationalization: I Don’t Need to Repent of That 

First, we might not think we have much to repent of. Our relativistic culture often avoids talking about what is right or wrong. Because of this, it is easy to look at our own lives and think, “I’m a good person. I haven’t committed any horrible crimes. Everyone else does this. I know other people who are much worse than I am.” But God doesn’t grade on a curve. True disciples of Jesus don’t try to rationalize their sin. When a part of us senses we might have done something wrong or we’re doing something that goes against what Jesus and his Church teach, all we need to do is repent—to admit our fault, trust in God’s mercy and try to change our behavior instead of trying to justify our sins, convincing ourselves what we’re doing is okay. 

Fear of Repenting: I Don’t Want to Change! 

Second, we might be afraid to let go of certain sins. Augustine knew what he was doing was wrong, but he didn’t want to give up his bad habits. Before his conversion, he once even prayed, “Lord, give me chastity, but not yet!” We, too, might be afraid to give up a sin, perhaps because we fear what others will think of us or we wonder if life will lose its joy or fun. But we need to see what Augustine came to see: that God’s plan is for our happiness and when we follow God’s plan, we always find fullness of life and a greater joy than we would otherwise, no matter what the cost. The joy of the Gospel is so much better than our sins. 

I Can’t Be Forgiven…I Can’t Change 

Third, we might doubt we are capable of repentance. Like Augustine, we might believe we are so enslaved to sin that turning our lives around is impossible. We might delay and convince ourselves that maybe later, when we have our lives put together, we can repent and believe in God. Jesus, however, doesn’t work like this. We don’t need to “put our lives in order” so that we can begin living in friendship with Jesus; we need to entrust our lives to Jesus so that he can put our lives in order! We cannot do it on our own. But with his help, we can be forgiven, changed and made new. 

Discuss: If you were to rend your heart open and look inside, what weakness would you find there that you’d want to work on most? Which of these three obstacles—rationalization, fear of letting go of certain sins or thinking you can’t change—might hold you back most from true repentance? 


CONFESSION 

A crucial key step toward full repentance is going to confession. For many Catholics, confession is one of the most freeing, liberating, life-giving experiences of their lives. Instead of holding on to the burden their sin and guilt, they are able to give it to God, Who not only forgives them, but also embraces them as a loving Father and rejoices at their returning home, just like in Jesus’ parable of the Prodigal Son (Lk 15:11-32). 

For some people, however, confession is just scary and is misunderstood. We might be hesitant to confess our sins, afraid of what the priest might think. Or, perhaps, we may not understand this sacrament, thinking, “Why confess to a priest? Isn’t God the one who forgives me?” Or maybe, we are just nervous and unsure how to make a good confession. Let’s address some of these concerns. 

First, the Sacrament of Reconciliation (confession) is instituted by Christ as the place he wants us to go to deal with our sins. Jesus said to his apostles, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained” (Jn 20:22-23). Just as the Father sent Jesus to forgive the sins of the world, so too are his apostles (and their successors) called to forgive sins. 

But, why did Jesus set it up this way, instead of simply having us pray to God? Why involve a priest? 

God has always used human beings as instruments in his plan of salvation. Whether it be Moses leading the people out of Egypt or the prophet Elijah raising a girl from the dead, God works through his human leaders, even if they are fallen and sinful. Therefore, we shouldn’t be surprised when we see God still involving his leaders, the priests and bishops, in his work today. Think of the priest in confession as God’s instrument of mercy—or, in the words of St. Paul, “God’s fellow worker” (1 Cor 3:9)—and having a “ministry of reconciliation” (2 Cor 5:19). It’s not the priest who is forgiving our sins, but Jesus working through the priest. 

A second reason confession is so important, is that Scripture tells us to “confess [our] sins to one another” (Jas 5:16). When we have to verbalize our sins to another person, we are forced to face the truth about ourselves at a much deeper level. We speak our sins. We name them. And we do so in the presence of God’s representative here on earth, the priest. We also have the privilege of hearing the priest say, “Your sins are forgiven. Go in peace.” It’s so important to hear those words, to have confidence that God has indeed forgiven us. Some of the most profound moments in friendship or marriage come when we say “I am sorry” and we hear our friend or our beloved say, “I forgive you.” How much more profound it is when we speak the words “I am sorry” not just in the silence of our heart, but out loud to God’s representative—the priest—and then hear Christ say to us through the priest, “I absolve you of all your sins”! 

A third reason to go to confession regularly is that the sacrament gives us grace to heal us and help us overcome our weakness. God doesn’t just pardon our sins in confession. He gets to the root of our sins and heals our deeper wounds. This is another reason we want to go to confession regularly, at least once a month. 

Finally, sometimes people are just nervous about going to confession: I don’t know what to do. What if I don’t say the prayers correctly? If you need help, use this simple guide: https://stjosemaria.org/short-guide-for-confession/. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Friends, leaders in your church or even the priest himself during your confession are able to help you make a great confession. 

Jesus doesn’t want you to remain stuck in your sin. He has a great plan for you. Don’t let your sins hold you back. Come to him in confession and receive Christ’s forgiveness, healing and grace to overcome your weaknesses. 

Discuss: How long has it been since you have been to confession? Do you have any hesitations about confession? Take some time to discuss how to make a good confession and any struggles you might have with receiving this sacrament. 

Be ashamed when you sin. Do not be ashamed when you repent.
  St. John Chrysostom  


TAKE ACTION 

If you haven’t been to confession in a while, now is the time. If you don’t yet go to confession regularly, try to make a plan to go at least once a month. Make a plan for when and where you will go to confession. 


TRANSFERABLE CONCEPTS 

Repent: The word repent (metanoia) means to turn our whole lives around—to turn away from sin and turn toward Christ. 

Jesus gave his apostles the authority to forgive sins and that was passed on to their successors throughout the centuries, to the bishops and priests today: “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained” (Jn 20:22-23). 

Frequent Confession: We want to go to confession frequently. Not only are we forgiven of our sins, but we also receive grace to help us overcome our weaknesses and heal the wounds of sin in our lives.